Bear with me a minute while I explain, although I’m sure there’s quite a few of you that got what I meant instantly.
The choices we make aren’t always clear cut. Sometimes we choose the lesser of two evils. Which is usually how I feel when I go to vote in our national elections. You see, I don’t like politicians as a rule and when I have to choose who I’m going to vote for, I tend to go for the party that I feel is going to cause the least damage to my country and my lifestyle.
. There are women who suffer from mental illness, for example, and although they are physically able to have children, the strain on their mental health would be too much. Not to mention the risk of passing that condition on to her children and having them suffer the way she has. See what I mean? It’s technically a choice, but I bet it doesn’t feel like a choice to that woman. It feels like the only decision she could make.
Then there’s the woman who meets her partner later in life. Yes, we’ve all seen the celebrities who have their first child at age 50. Yeah. Good for them. But those of us that live in the real world may not want to burden teenagers with elderly parents. They may be starting to see the beginnings of all those aches and pains that come with getting older and they may not feel physically able to cope with bringing up a child. Again. A choice, but not really.
And how about the adoption route? (Don’t you just hate it when people say, “Why don’t you adopt?). Well… let’s see. In my country at least, there’s several different, and stressful, hoops you have to jump through. Your whole lives are examined, and stupid things you did when you were 17 years old and drunk may disqualify you. Assuming you can find a child to adopt in the first place. Trust me, there just isn’t that many children up for adoption nowadays. What about adopting from overseas? Yup. Good idea. I’ll get on to that, just as soon as I can scrape up enough money for that to be an option. Again. A choice. But not really.
It’s not black and white, folks. It’s just not. There are usually several degrees of greyness and what is right for one woman in a certain situation is not right for the next. Isn’t it time we showed some compassion for those that don’t feel they have a choice?